As you may have seen (!), I won an award last Saturday – Coach/Mentor of the Year in The Women Inspiring Women Awards.
In a private chat conversation on Facebook on 29th May with my friend Heather Bestel of A Little Bit of Me Time , Heather suggested an idea for spreading the word to canvass for votes. I did what she suggested and the next day I wrote to her:
“Gulp! Done it! Will go do the same on working mums page now. All sorts of wobbles… woke up last night thinking “Who do you think you are?” and “What will people think”. Lots of mindset stuff to keep breaking through!”
The above is copied and pasted, with absolutely no changes, from our Facebook chat conversation.
On Monday, Heather wrote to congratulate me on my award win:
“Hee hee – enjoy shining in that spotlight. Step into it. Enjoy it. Claim it. It’s yours. You WINNER!!!!
And what a wonderful experience to share with your clients especially when they are thinking to themselves “What will people think of me?” or “Who do I think I am?”
So that’s what I’m doing – sharing not only the experience of winning with you, but also the experience of getting scared, having wobbles, battling with limiting self beliefs – and having won in more than one sense!
And this is one of the joys of winning for me – that I can show you that I’m not always as uber confident and self-assured as I might appear “on the page”. By being this open with my own self-doubt, I hope that you realise how much is possible for you, even if you doubt yourself. What I want for you is for you to think:
“Heck, if she can do it, then I can do it” (whatever your “it” may be)
Here are 5 thoughts that I’d like to share from my experience over the past few weeks :
- It’s all about courage. Most of us doubt ourselves. It takes courage to achieve something worthwhile. Have courage and dare to raise your head above the parapet.
- You are much more likely to regret the things you DON’T do in life than the things that you DO.
- Rather than “What’s the worst that could happen?” try “What’s the BEST that could happen?
- If I can do it, so can you. Of course your “it” doesn’t have to be an award application, it can be whatever you would love to achieve, do or be.
- Feel the fear and do it anyway. Oh.. and my favourite - Leap and the net will appear!
Mandy Evans, the originator of Breakout Coaching, shows people how to breakout from beliefs that hold them back. She is also the wisest person I have met on this planet. I had the privilege of being trained in Breakout Coaching by Mandy last year, and she has been my Mentor and my Coach. This week, Mandy wrote a blog post that uncannily mirrors my own recent experience. In this post she asks why we hide our light under a bushel:
“Why are we reluctant to let others know about the richness of our experience, our wisdom, what we have created and what we dream of creating?”
One of Mandy’s clients decided to “take off her minimiser bra”, having adopted a new slogan:
“Thou shalt not self-deprecate.”
Isn’t it time you took your minimiser bra off too?!
I recommend that you read Mandy’s post if you are hiding your own light and that you start to examine any pesky limiting beliefs that might be holding you back. You can read Mandy’s post here.
I welcome your comments and thoughts here on the blog. And if you are still wearing your minimiser bra and you would like to work with a coach who can help you get rid of it, get in touch, as I would love to help you to get over yourself and get your light seen!